Is It Time? When to Consider Assisted Living for Mom or Dad

Posted By on February 22, 2021

Caring for an older family member can be especially overwhelming if/when they begin to require more and more attention. Even if you aren’t a primary caregiver, it can be concerning to think of your parent(s) living at home knowing they need additional support.

While you may be aware of the different types of senior care options: independent living, assisted living, and even respite care, you may still be asking yourself, “How do I know when it’s the right time for this care?” 

HarborChase Senior Living offers independent living, assisted living, and memory care services throughout the United States. While older adults and their families may be reluctant to consider senior care options, it’s important to remember that these communities aim to enhance their residents’ quality of life and foster independence, not limit it. 

We’re sharing some signs to look for in your family member that may indicate it’s time to consider assisted living. 

The Sooner, The Better

Often, families will wait until there’s a crisis to move a loved one into a senior living community. However, by doing this, you’re potentially depriving your parent(s) of essential care and engagement and even the chance to prevent a crisis from happening. 

By exploring your options and having conversations before you think you need to, you can ensure that your family member can take full advantage of all that senior living has to offer. 

What To Look For…


Next time you’re able to safely visit your parent’s or family member’s house, take a look around at the state of things. 

  • Are there piles of dishes in the sink and old food in the fridge? 
  • Are the rooms disorganized and full of hazardous clutter? 
  • Are there unopened or unpaid bills?

An unmaintained house is not only a safety hazard but also a warning sign that your parent(s) may not be able to handle the responsibilities of living independently. 

If this is the case, it could be time to consider assisted living. At assisted living communities like HarborChase, individuals are free from the burdens of home-ownership, as well as other daily chores like cooking and cleaning. We strive to make life as easy and convenient as possible for our residents and to ensure that they receive all the attention and amenities that they would in a luxury hotel, with no work from them. 


Even though your family member may assure you that they’re healthy and “fine,” their physical appearance can sometimes tell you otherwise. Check their overall weight and appearance. 

  • Do they seem put-together and clean, or do they seem frazzled and unkempt? 
  • Are there any unexplained bruises or scratches? 
  • Observe the way they move around the house. Do they have to hold onto things or shuffle instead of walk? 

If you notice any of these scenarios, it could indicate that they can no longer effectively complete activities of daily living (ADLs) on their own. The ability to complete these actions independently is essential for living successfully on your own, but if you cannot, assisted living is an excellent option. Assisted living communities offer 24/7 attention and support so that residents can live as independently as they want to but can also receive assistance when needed. 

At HarborChase Assisted Living communities, we deliver professional care and support to all residents who need it. We provide meaningful and personalized care that fosters growth and independence.


Your family member may be doing fine physically, but it’s important to note how they are acting as well. 

  • Have they seemed to isolate themselves more, no longer interested in friends or activities that they used to enjoy? 
  • Are they having mood swings or bouts of anger? 
  • Do they have memory lapses that could potentially put them in danger? 

Any of these types of changes in personality or behavior could signify that it’s time they may need additional support and attention. In tandem with physical support, assisted living communities also provide support for mental fluctuations. For those who are lonely or isolated, these communities can create an active and social environment. For individuals who experience mood swings or memory lapses, assisted living communities are full of specially trained staff who recognize the signs of dementia and other cognitive impairments. 


In addition to observing your parents’ state, pay attention to your own, as well. Are you worn out from caring for your parents as well as yourself? Are you frequently worried about how they’re doing when you’re unable to visit? 

For these reasons, assisted living can be beneficial for everyone involved. By moving your parent or family member into a HarborChase Assisted Living community, you can give yourself peace of mind that they are receiving round-the-clock attention, professional support, and nutritious meals—all in a stimulating environment. 

Making The Decision

HarborChase Senior Living knows that deciding to transition your parent(s) into assisted living can be an emotional experience. It’s important to realize, though, that in most cases, it’s the best possible environment for them.

As you observe your parent’s health and wellness, begin the senior living conversation early. Even if you only notice one or two of these warning signs, it’s always best to make the move sooner rather than later. For more information on how to talk to a parent about senior living or assisted living services at HarborChase Senior Living, we invite you to contact us today.


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